The why nots about sex

Proverbs 4:23 

- above all else guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life.

How does that relate to sex? 

   Your purity is a huge part of you and your heart. When you have sex with someone you give them that piece of your heart. Even though God can heal your heart, why not save him and you the trouble. 

Song of Songs 2:7

- Daughters of Jerusalem, i charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. 

   The entire book of song of songs is about a couple who is recently married. In this scripture she is telling the other women to save sex for marriage because it is worth it. 

What if we are meant to be? 

   This is probably the most used excuse i have herd. If its meant to be then test it. If you have turely found that person you are meant to spend forever with, then they should be able to respect your decision to wait. And then there is the other side to that answer... What if it really isn't meant to be?

Psalm 37:4

- delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. 

   My question to you is why settle for less? In this scripture it tells you that God WILL give you the desires of your heart. That's a promise from God and he doesn't break his promises. So if your heart desires to have someone to love then God will get it done. So if your a real christian and "live by faith and not by sight" (2 Corinthians 5:7), then trust him. And if you know that God will bring you a spouse, then why start cheating on them now?

Commitment

   This is a big reason to save it. Sometimes we do think that we are meant to be with a certain person and give in. Then after a while it doesn't work out. The problem is that you weren't completely committed to one another. Marriage is  commitment.  

Song of Songs 2:16 

- "My lover is mine and i am my lovers." 

   Don't you want your future spouse all to yourself and not have to think about their past with another woman or another man? Well I'm guessing that they want the same thing. 

Whenever you hit puberty and your mom tells her girlfriends, sometimes they like to congratulate you on becoming a man or a woman. It's so ridiculous! Just because you are able to have babies doesn't make you an adult. Same goes for sex. Some people may say that sex is how you become and adult. Seriously?  A smart adult plans ahead and uses wisdom to make the right decisions. What about having sex before marriage fits that description?

What if i don't know what to do on my wedding night?

   Please, this is a lame excuse. Have you ever heard of a couple who couldn't figure it out? And if you honestly cant on your wedding night, you have the rest of your life to try. Also the first time is always a little awkward but wouldn't you rather share that breaf awkwardness with the one who already committed to you and loves you?

Everyone is doing it

   Can you really say that after reading this blog? Don't i make it obvious that I'm not "doing it?" It may seem like your the only one, but who wants to be "normal?" By all means if "normal" is walking around feeling hurt, used, rejected, heartbroken, worthless and alone, then i don't want to be "normal." Do you?

Song of Songs 4:12

- You are a garden locked up, my sister my bride; You are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain.

   You might be thinking "a sealed fountain? What the heck?" But what this scripture is really saying is how much the husband loves that his wife is pure. Isn't gazing at a fountain or strolling in a garden nice? But to know that that garden or fountain is all yours makes it even better.

Say you do have sex, how do you plan on telling you true soul mate that you already gave it away? How do you tell someone something like that? What if it really hurts them?


If you have already "done it" and wished you had saved it, then start over. Its one thing to tell you spouse that you made a mistake and realized it. Its totally different to say that you just didn't care.

You shouldn't have to prove your love. If you are in a dating relationship and are being pressured to have sex, its not worth it. That should tell you right there that the person wants only to please themselves and really doesn't care about your feelings. He or she should love you for who you are not what you can give.

If i haven't given you enough reasons why not to have sex, please feel free to look in your Bible for more. Also if you still think that sex before marriage is right for you, then state your reasons. I am sure i can help chance your mine :)